Toxic Relationship Test: What It Measures and Your Score

Toxic relationships can take hold insidiously and be hard to identify from the inside. This 30-question test explores four key dimensions of relational toxicity: manipulation, control, devaluation and isolation. Each dimension is assessed precisely to give you a clear view of the dynamic in your relationship. The results will help you become aware of harmful behaviours and consider protective action.

In the article that follows, I explore toxic relationships and whether to stay or leave. If you recognise yourself in this theme, I designed a toxic relationship test that helps you take stock of how toxic your relationship really is. It comes with a guide to extend your reflection beyond the results.

What the test measures

• Use of covert strategies to influence your thoughts, emotions and behaviours.
• Attempts to control your choices, your activities and your personal freedom.
• Behaviours designed to diminish your self-esteem, your confidence and your personal worth.
• Strategies aimed at cutting you off from your circle, your friends and your family.

Take the test: Toxic Relationship Detection → — Manipulation, control, devaluation, isolation: the test measures these four dimensions to turn a vague feeling into a clear reading.

How to interpret your score

The result reads as an intensity, not as a diagnosis:

• Healthy relationship: Your relationship appears broadly healthy and respectful. Few signs of toxicity detected.
• Moderate warning signs: Some concerning behaviours are present in your relationship. They deserve serious attention.
• Problematic relationship: Your relationship shows many signs of toxicity that significantly affect your wellbeing.
• Dangerous relationship: Your relationship shows serious characteristics of toxicity and potentially of psychological abuse.

What your full report contains

The detailed PDF report (from EUR 4.99) includes:

• Introduction: This report analyses the relational dynamics you have described across four key dimensions of toxicity. The results aim to help you become aware of your situation.
• Overall Score: Your overall score reflects the level of toxicity perceived in your relationship. The higher the score, the more frequent and intense the problematic behaviours.
• Dimension-by-Dimension Analysis: Each dimension explores a specific aspect of relational toxicity. The detailed analysis below helps you precisely identify the harmful dynamics present in your relationship.
• Recommendations: The following recommendations are tailored to your situation. If your score is high, it is essential to take steps to protect your wellbeing.
• Resources: Useful numbers: 3919 (Violences Femmes Info), 0 800 05 95 95 (Viols Femmes Informations). Outside France: local emergency services, or findahelpline.com (free international directory). Recommended books: 'Le harcelement moral' by Marie-France Hirigoyen, 'Les manipulateurs sont parmi nous' by Isabelle Nazare-Aga.

The first 5 questions are free; the full, personalised report (your precise score, your dimension-by-dimension profile, your recommendations) is paid.

When to take this test

• You recognise yourself in toxic relationship, manipulation, psychological abuse and want a clearer picture.
• You want a structured reading rather than a vague impression.
• You are looking for an objective starting point before speaking to a professional if needed.

Take the test: Toxic Relationship Detection → — 60 questions, anonymous, PDF report (EUR 4.99). 🔗 Analyse your conversations with ScanMyLove — an objective, structured look at the communication patterns in your relationship.

FAQ

How long does the test take? 60 questions, about 15 min. The test has 60 questions. Does the test provide a diagnosis? No. It measures an intensity and offers reference points; only a professional can make a diagnosis. Are my answers confidential? Yes: the test is 100% anonymous and the report is delivered directly to you.

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👉 Start the Toxic Relationship Detection test → — 60 questions, immediate result, PDF report, 100% anonymous.