67 questions·10 min·5 dimensions and a separate readiness-to-change module·up to 17 clinical frameworks·6 report sections
Reviewed by Gildas Garrec, CBT practitioner
Good morning,
This test is for people currently in a relationship: it's about what happens between the two of you, not about a past relationship. It explores the dimensions of communication as a couple, from listening to emotional intimacy, along with expressing needs and handling conflict. A complementary section looks at your readiness to change.
Your answers help identify exchange habits worth discussing. On their own, they don't describe your partner's point of view, and they don't point to who is responsible for the difficulties.
What you receive — a report written from your answers: what stands out, what sustains it, and where to start. This week, this month, later on.
How it is built — each axis is analyzed on its own, then cross-read with the others, through clinical reading frameworks. Your detailed answers are attached as an appendix. See an example report
The test runs over 67 questions and takes about 10 min, for a price of $3.60.
We'd also suggest reading the book Saving Your Relationship, to take this reflection further. It's included in the price and downloadable.
If you have a question about your report, write to us at contact@psychologieetserenite.com: a psychotherapist will reply within 48 hours.
I'd also suggest analysing your conversation with ScanMyLove; it's a complementary tool that, from your exchanges as partners, sheds light on your relationship dynamics.
Couple Communication Test — a 67-question self-assessment, about 10 min. Couples communication test: explore listening, expressing needs, conflict and emotional openness through your own responses. Once finished, you receive a detailed PDF report ($3.60): an interpretation of its 5 dimensions, a radar chart, up to 17 clinical reading frameworks and a personalized action plan. It is designed to help you know yourself better.
This test is for people currently in a relationship: it's about what happens between the two of you, not about a past relationship. It explores the dimensions of communication as a couple, from listening to emotional intimacy, along with expressing needs and handling conflict. A complementary section looks at your readiness to change.
Your answers help identify exchange habits worth discussing. On their own, they don't describe your partner's point of view, and they don't point to who is responsible for the difficulties.
This interactive test covers listening, speaking up, dialogue, conflict, repair, anger, withdrawal, boundaries, affection, recognition, support, screens and readiness to change.
What the test asks, for example
Listening
If, while your partner is telling you about their day, you scroll through your phone without looking up.
If you repeat back to your partner what you have just heard, in your own words, to check.
Speaking up
If, before telling your partner what you want, you feel a lump form in your throat that holds you back.
If you tell your partner the exact word for what you feel: sadness, irritation or worry.
Dialogue
If, when the conversation gets personal, you crack a joke and change the subject.
If, after dinner, you talk about something other than chores and the day-to-day schedule.
Conflict
If, in the middle of an argument, you bring up an old grievance that has nothing to do with what you are actually discussing.
If, in the middle of an argument, you ask your partner to explain their point of view before you give yours.
Repair
If, the day after saying something hurtful, you talk about the weather instead of apologizing.
If, after an argument, you are the one who makes the first move and comes back to talk things through.
Anger
If, in the middle of an argument, you blurt out a hurtful sentence that you regret the moment you say it.
If, when an argument escalates, you lower your voice instead of reaching for the word that hurts.
Withdrawal
How long the silence you keep after an argument with your partner lasts.
If, on the evening of an argument, the two of you pick the conversation back up together to reconnect.
Boundaries
If, when something said at dinner bothers you, you keep it to yourself and clear the table.
If, when your partner makes a purchase on their own that bothers you, you say so that same evening.
Affection
If you tell or show your partner that you love them, including when you are heading out in the morning.
If, in the small gestures of everyday life, the two of you touch each other's hand or shoulder in passing.
Recognition
If you thank your partner for what they do around the house.
If, after an argument, you name your own part out loud rather than putting it all on your partner.
Support
If, when your partner shares a worry, you jump in with the time the same thing happened to you.
If, during times when your partner is struggling, you move closer instead of pulling away.
Screens
If, during a disagreement, you pull out your phone to show your partner a message or photo you have kept.
If, when your partner wants to talk to you, you put your phone face down on the table.
Readiness to change
If what you have just described weighs on your relationships.
If you want to change the way you function day to day.
About this test
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Dimensions assessed
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Your reading of the disagreements- How you make sense of what keeps coming up in your disagreements as a couple, before the test tells you anything about it. This section doesn't measure any difficulty and doesn't produce a level: it captures a starting point, because working on this isn't the same depending on whether you point to unrelated topics, the way you talk to each other, the circumstances of the moment, or a deeper difference.
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Active Listening- How present you really are while your partner is speaking. The report reads this as attention that gets split: what actually reaches your partner, and what stays taken up by preparing your own reply.
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Self-Expression- The gap between what you actually feel and what ends up being said out loud. This dimension looks both at how precisely you find the words and at the moment you choose to say them.
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Conflict Management- How you behave in disagreement, read in two separate moments the report distinguishes: what happens while the conflict is escalating, then what you do with the relationship once the tension has settled.
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Emotional Intimacy- How deep an access you let your partner have into your inner life, and the protective calculation that comes with sharing it. Two equally talkative couples can sit at very different places on this.
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Readiness to Change- Where you stand before you even begin. The report treats separately how much weight you give the topic and what you want: the gap between the two is what points to the next steps.
Reference frameworks and authors
theoretical reference, no item drawn from it, no diagnosis The 5 Love Languages (Chapman, 1992)
theoretical reference, no item drawn from it, no diagnosis Nonviolent Communication (NVC) (Marshall Rosenberg, 1999)
theoretical reference, no item drawn from it, no diagnosis Research on marital stability (Gottman, 1999)
Why take this test?
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This test is for people currently in a relationship: it's about what happens between the two of you, not about a past relationship. It explores the dimensions of communication as a couple, from listening to emotional intimacy, along with expressing needs and handling conflict. A complementary section looks at your readiness to change.
Your answers help identify exchange habits worth discussing. On their own, they don't describe your partner's point of view, and they don't point to who is responsible for the difficulties.
The questionnaire explores 5 areas: Your reading of the disagreements, Active Listening, Self-Expression, Conflict Management, Emotional Intimacy. Your answers support reflection, not a diagnosis. A separate module explores readiness to change; it is not another trait of the model presented.
Dimensions explored
These are the aspects explored by this questionnaire. Your answers help put them into perspective.
Your reading of the disagreements
How you make sense of what keeps coming up in your disagreements as a couple, before the test tells you anything about it. This section doesn't measure any difficulty and doesn't produce a level: it captures a starting point, because working on this isn't the same depending on whether you point to unrelated topics, the way you talk to each other, the circumstances of the moment, or a deeper difference.
Active Listening
How present you really are while your partner is speaking. The report reads this as attention that gets split: what actually reaches your partner, and what stays taken up by preparing your own reply.
Self-Expression
The gap between what you actually feel and what ends up being said out loud. This dimension looks both at how precisely you find the words and at the moment you choose to say them.
Conflict Management
How you behave in disagreement, read in two separate moments the report distinguishes: what happens while the conflict is escalating, then what you do with the relationship once the tension has settled.
Emotional Intimacy
How deep an access you let your partner have into your inner life, and the protective calculation that comes with sharing it. Two equally talkative couples can sit at very different places on this.
Readiness to Change
Where you stand before you even begin. The report treats separately how much weight you give the topic and what you want: the gap between the two is what points to the next steps.
How does it work?
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Take the test
Answer the 67 questions honestly. There are no right or wrong answers — just choose the option that best describes you. The test takes about 10 min.
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Proceed to payment
Once you finish the test, pay $3.60 securely to unlock your full report. No registration required.
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Download your detailed PDF report
For a comprehensive analysis, get your PDF report (5 dimensions analyzed, radar chart, personalized recommendations, action plan). Instant download after secure payment.
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“ My boyfriend and I took the test together. The report shows where we're compatible and where we clash. A great tool for opening up a conversation about our differences. ”
— Marion, December 2025
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“ My husband and I discovered that our main friction point is how we handle conflict. The report suggests communication exercises that we now practice together. ”
— Fabienne, November 2025
Frequently Asked Questions
What does this test measure?
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This test evaluates 5 psychological dimensions: Your reading of the disagreements, Active Listening, Self-Expression, Conflict Management, Emotional Intimacy. The report distinguishes the areas explored and their limits of interpretation. A separate module explores readiness to change; it is not another trait of the model presented.
How long does this test take?
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The test contains 67 questions and takes approximately 10 min to complete. You can answer at your own pace — your progress is automatically saved in your browser.
How does this test work?
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The test is anonymous and requires no registration. After completing it, you immediately see a preview of your results. The detailed PDF report, with in-depth analysis, charts and personalized recommendations, is available for $3.60.
Is this test scientifically validated?
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This questionnaire draws on 5 dimensions from recognized psychological frameworks (Your reading of the disagreements, Active Listening, Self-Expression…). It's a self-assessment tool for reflection, not a clinical diagnostic instrument: it has not undergone formal psychometric validation (sample, reliability coefficient) and does not replace a professional assessment.
What does the PDF report contain?
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Your report includes an analysis by dimension, explanations and personalised points for reflection and a separate readiness-to-change module. Scores are interpreted according to the purpose and limitations of this questionnaire.
Is my data kept confidential?
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No account creation, no email required — no sign-up needed at all. Your answers are sent to our servers while you take the test. All data is automatically deleted after 30 days — see our Privacy page for full detail.
Who is this test for?
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Read this test’s introduction and dimensions to check whether they match your situation. Answer from the perspective specified in the instructions.
Can I retake the test later?
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Yes, you can retake this test as many times as you wish. Some people take it again after several months to observe how their profile evolves. Each new attempt generates its own report — previous answers are not reused.
What should I do with my results?
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The report organises your answers and offers points for reflection. You can discuss it with a professional; it does not replace their assessment or prescribe treatment.
Can people close to me also take it?
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Yes. Each person gets their own anonymous, unique report, based on THEIR answers. Comparing profiles within a family or couple can be useful — provided each person takes the test honestly and on their own, without influencing one another during the answers.
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