Should You Get Back With Your Ex? — No Contact Test

This test looks at the idea of reconnecting with an ex: what drives that wish, what the relationship was like before the breakup, the emotional state the decision is being made from today, and the observable signals coming from the ex. The report takes into account when this wish shows up: a spike of missing someone, right after a breakup, isn't easy to recognize from the inside. This interactive test looks at the breakup, missing someone, loneliness, failure, impulses, mood, sleep, rumination, jealousy, past disagreements, respect, self-esteem, support from others, and the readiness to move forward. What the test asks, for example Missing someone Whether it's your ex specifically you miss, and not having a partner in your life. Whether the idea of not finding a relationship this strong again worries you. Loneliness Whether the difficulty of spending an evening with no one to talk to pulls you toward your ex. Whether, when someone invites you out, the wish to go is still there even if your ex crosses your mind. Failure and jealousy Whether what you tell yourself sounds like: if you don't get back with your ex, you'll know for certain you failed. Whether knowing your ex could be with someone else brings on a jealousy that lingers long after. Impulses and sleep Whether you give in to the urge to call or text your ex late in the evening, without really having decided to. Whether, in the evening, sleep is slow to come as soon as your ex crosses your mind. Rumination Whether your thoughts drift back to your ex at moments you don't expect. Whether real happiness still feels possible for you, even if your ex doesn't come back. The past relationship Whether real respect was there, day to day, without your having to ask for it. Whether, when a disagreement was about money or family, it ended up as an argument between you. Self-esteem and respect Whether a disagreement with your ex could be voiced without fear of judgment or put-downs in return. Whether, in this relationship, your needs got as much attention as your ex's did. Signals from the other side Whether your ex has blocked your number, or your accounts on social media. Whether your ex has said they regret the breakup, or has brought up shared memories. Support Whether mutual friends report that your ex still talks about you, or leaves the door open. Whether you can go a long stretch without contacting them, when you judge it useful for you. Readiness to move forward Whether what you've just described weighs on your life right now. Whether you want to move forward through this period, and whether you believe you're capable of it.