Relationship Patterns Test: Why Do I Repeat the Same Relationships?

This interactive test covers attachment, the relationship, conflict, pleasure, boundaries, abandonment, identity, speaking your mind, recognition, support, responsibility, guilt, impulses, anticipation and readiness to change. What the test asks, for example Attachment If you become attached to people whose replies to your messages stay unpredictable. If you are interested in reliable people, who are there when they said they would be. The relationship If, from one relationship to the next, you end up with the same type of person. If you choose the person with whom you truly feel good day to day. Conflict If your successive relationships end up finishing on the same reproach. If your past relationships look little alike when you compare them. Pleasure If someone stable who calls you back the next day seems dull and uninteresting to you. If a stable, kind person still interests you once the early excitement has passed. Boundaries If, at the start of a relationship, you overlook details that will jump out at you later. If, from the first weeks, you take seriously what bothers you. Abandonment If the same fears, abandonment, rejection or suffocation, come back in your successive relationships. If, in your relationships, you feel like someone who matters and has a place. Identity If, from one relationship to the next, you take up the same role, that of the person who gives and adapts. If you remain the same person, whatever role you hold in the relationship. Speaking your mind If you keep your needs to yourself, for fear of displeasing your partner. If you say what you need, even when you know it will displease. Recognition If you feel you have to earn your partner's love through your efforts. If you feel worthy of love without having to carry everything in the relationship. Support If you sort out your partner's problems and spend your evenings on them. If you protect your evenings and your sleep as much as you watch over your partner's. Responsibility If, when your partner is not doing well in the evening, you feel responsible. If, in your relationship, efforts are shared more or less equally. Guilt If you stay for a long time in a relationship that weighs on you, out of guilt. If you decide to commit or to leave after thinking it over. Impulses If the resolutions you make after a breakup hold until the next encounter, then fall apart. If, when you sense the pattern starting again in a relationship, you manage to stop it in time. Anticipation If you see the cycle starting again and follow it anyway. If you spot the pattern from the first weeks and choose to act differently. Readiness to change If what you have just described weighs on your life and your relationships. If you want to change the way you function day to day.