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Relationship Patterns Test: Why Do I Repeat the Same Relationships?
63 questions·10 min·5 dimensions and a separate readiness-to-change module·up to 17 clinical frameworks·6 report sections
Reviewed by Gildas Garrec, CBT practitioner
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This test looks at the relationship patterns that replay, through four aspects: the kind of person your attraction goes toward, what your current bonds borrow from something older, the position you end up occupying — supporting, giving in, controlling, rescuing — and how automatic the cycle stays despite your clear-sightedness. The report locates the entry point of the cycle in time.
What you receive — a report written from your answers: what stands out, what sustains it, and where to start. This week, this month, later on.
How it is built — each axis is analyzed on its own, then cross-read with the others, through clinical reading frameworks. Your detailed answers are attached as an appendix. See an example report
The test runs over 63 questions and takes about 10 min, for a price of $3.60.
We'd also suggest reading the book The Practical CBT Guide, to take this reflection further. It's included in the price and downloadable.
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Relationship Patterns Test: Why Do I Repeat the Same Relationships? — a 63-question self-assessment, about 10 min. This test looks at the relationship patterns that replay, through four aspects. The report locates the entry point of the cycle. Once finished, you receive a detailed PDF report ($3.60): an interpretation of its 5 dimensions, a radar chart, up to 17 clinical reading frameworks and a personalized action plan. It is designed to help you know yourself better.
This test covers attachment, desire, anticipation, separation, identity, speaking your mind, boundaries, self-esteem, responsibility, the relationship, control, perseverance, memory, rejection and readiness to change. What the test asks, for example Attachment If you are drawn to emotionally unavailable people. If you feel attracted to available and reliable people. Desire If stable and available people seem dull or uninteresting to you. If you stay interested in someone even when they are stable and kind. Anticipation If you tend to ignore red flags at the start of a relationship. If you take red flags into account from the start of a relationship. Separation If your relationships end for surprisingly similar reasons. If the way your relationships end varies with the people and contexts. Identity If you always occupy the same role in your relationships (the one who gives, rescues, adapts). If your identity stays solid, regardless of your role in the relationship. Speaking your mind If you struggle to express your needs for fear of displeasing or being left. If you express your needs clearly, even at the risk of displeasing. Boundaries If you tolerate behaviors you would not accept from someone else. If you look after your own balance as much as your partner's. Self-esteem If you feel you must earn love through your efforts. If you feel worthy of love without having to carry everything. Responsibility If you feel responsible for your partner's mood or happiness. If, in your relationships, roles and efforts are balanced between you. The relationship If you are afraid that without your constant efforts the relationship would collapse. If, when a relationship feels good, you notice it and rely on it. Control If you sometimes feel like a spectator of a script you do not control. If your choices in love are guided by conscious decisions. Perseverance If, despite the pain, you struggle to break these patterns. If you manage to interrupt a pattern when you sense it starting up again. Memory If you recognize traits of an important figure from your past in your partners. If you live your current relationships from who you are today. Rejection If your fears in love (abandonment, rejection, suffocation) recur from one relationship to the next. If you feel enough and important in your relationships. Readiness to change If your repetitive relationship patterns have a real impact on your life and relationships. If you believe you are capable of growing in this area.
About this test
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Dimensions assessed
- ●Recurring Partner Choice- Tendency to be drawn to the same kind of profile, often unavailable or problematic
- ●Old Roots- A sense of replaying familiar dynamics from your history in love
- ●Fixed Role- Tendency to always occupy the same role (rescuer, submissive, over-giver, controlling...)
- ●Unconscious Cycle- Automatic, repeated nature of the cycle, despite awareness or harm
- ●Readiness to Change- Measures your current readiness to acknowledge the impact of this topic on your life and engage in a process of growth.
- ●Your reading of this pattern- The way you explain the repetition of this pattern to yourself, before the test tells you anything. This section measures no difficulty and produces no level: it captures a starting reading, specific to this pattern, which is taken up again in the report.
Reference frameworks and authors
- Early maladaptive schemas (Young, 1990)
Why take this test?
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This test looks at the relationship patterns that replay, through four aspects: the kind of person your attraction goes toward, what your current bonds borrow from something older, the position you end up occupying — supporting, giving in, controlling, rescuing — and how automatic the cycle stays despite your clear-sightedness. The report locates the entry point of the cycle in time.
The questionnaire explores 5 areas: Recurring Partner Choice, Old Roots, Fixed Role, Unconscious Cycle, Your reading of this pattern. Your answers support reflection, not a diagnosis. A separate module explores readiness to change; it is not another trait of the model presented.
Dimensions explored
These are the aspects explored by this questionnaire. Your answers help put them into perspective.
Recurring Partner Choice
Tendency to be drawn to the same kind of profile, often unavailable or problematic
Old Roots
A sense of replaying familiar dynamics from your history in love
Fixed Role
Tendency to always occupy the same role (rescuer, submissive, over-giver, controlling...)
Unconscious Cycle
Automatic, repeated nature of the cycle, despite awareness or harm
Readiness to Change
Measures your current readiness to acknowledge the impact of this topic on your life and engage in a process of growth.
Your reading of this pattern
The way you explain the repetition of this pattern to yourself, before the test tells you anything. This section measures no difficulty and produces no level: it captures a starting reading, specific to this pattern, which is taken up again in the report.
How does it work?
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Take the test
Answer the 63 questions honestly. There are no right or wrong answers — just choose the option that best describes you. The test takes about 10 min.
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Proceed to payment
Once you finish the test, pay $3.60 securely to unlock your full report. No registration required.
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Download your detailed PDF report
For a comprehensive analysis, get your PDF report (5 dimensions analyzed, radar chart, personalized recommendations, action plan). Instant download after secure payment.
Frequently Asked Questions
What does this test measure?
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This test evaluates 5 psychological dimensions: Recurring Partner Choice, Old Roots, Fixed Role, Unconscious Cycle, Your reading of this pattern. The report distinguishes the areas explored and their limits of interpretation. A separate module explores readiness to change; it is not another trait of the model presented.
How long does this test take?
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The test contains 63 questions and takes approximately 10 min to complete. You can answer at your own pace — your progress is automatically saved in your browser.
How does this test work?
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The test is anonymous and requires no registration. After completing it, you immediately see a preview of your results. The detailed PDF report, with in-depth analysis, charts and personalized recommendations, is available for $3.60.
Is this test scientifically validated?
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This questionnaire draws on 5 dimensions from recognized psychological frameworks (Recurring Partner Choice, Old Roots, Fixed Role…). It's a self-assessment tool for reflection, not a clinical diagnostic instrument: it has not undergone formal psychometric validation (sample, reliability coefficient) and does not replace a professional assessment.
What does the PDF report contain?
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Your report includes an analysis by dimension, explanations and personalised points for reflection and a separate readiness-to-change module. Scores are interpreted according to the purpose and limitations of this questionnaire.
Is my data kept confidential?
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No account creation, no email required — no sign-up needed at all. Your answers are sent to our servers while you take the test. All data is automatically deleted after 30 days — see our Privacy page for full detail.
Who is this test for?
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Read this test’s introduction and dimensions to check whether they match your situation. Answer from the perspective specified in the instructions.
Can I retake the test later?
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Yes, you can retake this test as many times as you wish. Some people take it again after several months to observe how their profile evolves. Each new attempt generates its own report — previous answers are not reused.
What should I do with my results?
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The report organises your answers and offers points for reflection. You can discuss it with a professional; it does not replace their assessment or prescribe treatment.
Can people close to me also take it?
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Yes. Each person gets their own anonymous, unique report, based on THEIR answers. Comparing profiles within a family or couple can be useful — provided each person takes the test honestly and on their own, without influencing one another during the answers.
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