Why You Want What Others Have — And Don't Know It
What if your desires were not your own? Rene Girard and mimetic desire theory explain why jealousy is the hidden engine of love.
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Why You Want What Someone Else Has
Roland Barthes maps amorous desire from within: absence, jealousy, rapture. When the lover's discourse reveals mimetic desire.
Read the article →Do Women Really Want 'Better' Men? The Truth
Is female hypergamy a biological instinct or a cultural construction? Rigorous analysis of scientific data, Red Pill limitations, and the Girardian reading.
Read the article →When He Earns Less: The Shame Nobody Talks About
Male hypogamy: when the man earns less than his partner. Masculinity crisis, silent shame, and new couple models.
Read the article →When Love Gets Heavy: Why Freedom Feels Like a Trap
Kundera and mimetic desire: when Tomas's lightness collides with Teresa's weight. Girardian analysis of the impossible freedom of desire.
Read the article →When Jealousy Becomes Obsession: Inside the Mind's Trap
Analysis of Robbe-Grillet's Jealousy: when the jealous gaze becomes narrative structure. Obsession, surveillance, and the impossibility of knowing the other.
Read the article →Stop Saying These 15 Things to Your Partner
Discover how to replace toxic phrases with compassionate communication. Practical guide with 15 concrete alternatives.
Read the article →Finding the Right Therapist in Nantes: A Simple Guide
You're going through a difficult time — persistent anxiety, a strained relationship, or simply a lingering feeling of unease that has followed you for months.
Read the article →Why You Want What Others Have (And It Ruins Everything)
Analysis of Stendhal's The Red and the Black through Girard: crystallization, internal mediation, and triangular desire. Julien Sorel, archetype of mimetic desire.
Read the article →Why You Fall for People Tinder Chooses (And It's Not Your Fault)
How Tinder and algorithms transform romantic desire. Cognitive biases, ghosting, breadcrumbing, and strategies to navigate the digital dating market.
Read the article →Is Your Family Still Running Your Life? Take The Test
Guilt, hypervigilance, people-pleasing: what if it came from your childhood? 20 questions to evaluate the impact of a toxic family on your adult relationships.
Read the article →Do You Drink Too Much? Take This 10-Question Test
Do you drink too much? The WHO AUDIT test in 10 questions evaluates your alcohol consumption. Free, confidential, with immediate interpretation of your results.
Read the article →8 Questions to Know If They're Actually Worth It
Discover Jay Shetty's 8 questions to evaluate a romantic date with clarity, enriched with a CBT perspective.
Read the article →Stop Letting Guilt Control You: Spot Emotional Blackmail
Learn to recognize emotional blackmail in your relationship and discover concrete strategies to resist it without feeling guilty.
Read the article →Stop Fighting, Start Being Heard: 7 Communication Fixes
Compassionate communication in couples: 7 practical exercises from NVC and CBT
Read the article →The Song That Nails How Narcissists Mind-Game You
Psychological analysis of 'Confidence pour confidence' by Jean Schultheis: the chilling portrait of a narcissistic pervert in a 1980s hit song.
Read the article →The Manipulation Signs Hiding in Your Texts
A practical guide to identifying signs of manipulation in your SMS, WhatsApp, and messages: patterns, examples, and analysis grid.
Read the article →What Your Anxiety Score Actually Means
Decode your HAM-A score with this complete interpretation guide. Understand the Hamilton Anxiety Scale to better manage your symptoms.
Read the article →The Narcissistic Abuse Experts You Actually Need to Know
The complete guide to French and international experts on narcissistic abuse: psychologists, authors, podcasts, YouTube channels, and books.
Read the article →20 Phrases That Make You Question Your Reality
20 common gaslighting phrases in couples with concrete examples to identify them in your daily conversations.
Read the article →Over 190 applied psychology articles
The Psychologie et Sérénité blog offers over 190 articles written by Gildas Garrec, CBT psychotherapist in Nantes. Each article is based on validated psychological models (Gottman, Young, attachment theory, CBT) to provide concrete keys to understanding.
Couple communication — Gottman's 4 horsemen, the 5:1 ratio, stonewalling, NVC
Attachment — Anxious, avoidant, disorganized styles, path to secure attachment
Emotional dependency — The 10 signs, self-assessment tests, CBT strategies
Ghosting & dating — Ghosting, breadcrumbing, curving, orbiting, zombieing
Manipulation — Gaslighting, control, narcissistic pervert, psychological violence
Infidelity — Understanding, forgiving, trauma bonding, reconstruction
Anxiety & stress — Relationship anxiety, burnout, rumination, insomnia
Jealousy — Pathological jealousy, retrospective, social media
Breakup & grief — The 7 stages, no contact, relationship PTSD
Couple & cohabitation — Moving in, arguments, libido, mental load
Parenting — Parental alienation, co-parenting, blended family
Young's schemas — 18 early schemas, cognitive distortions
Dating apps — Mental health impact, paradox of choice, dating fatigue
Mental health — When to consult, online therapy, CBT vs EMDR
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